Being an introvert can be a tough thing to accept at first.
Your parents might tell you that ‘you’ll grow out of it’ but here I am, 20 years later still hating speaking on the phone.
But even long after you’ve accepted that you’re happy to be an introvert, the fun doesn’t quite stop there.
Now you have to live the rest of your life being misinterpreted as ‘the anti-social one’.
I accept that us introverts might be a little hard to read, so here’s a list of 10 things to make us easier to understand.
1. Just because I don’t want to hang out, it doesn’t mean that I hate you
Disclaimer: I may not always be up for doing something at the drop of a hat.
I might just not feel like it that day.
Please stop taking this personally.
2. Just because I’m not a big mouth, that doesn’t mean I don’t have something to say
Try brainstorming in a meeting with a room full of extroverts and see how that goes.
3. No, I don’t wish I was an extrovert
I once saw a job ad at a ‘cool’ company that claimed ‘we’ll turn you into an extrovert if you aren’t one already’.
I think I’d rather be unemployed then, thanks.
4. I need time to think
‘Hey you, what are your thoughts on this new idea I only mentioned about 30 seconds ago?’
How can I have an opinion when I haven’t even had time to think about it yet?
5. I don’t get bored in my own company
I blog, I bake, I watch box sets, I play music, I read.
You should try it sometime.
6. I am a people person
There’s nothing I love more than meeting new people, chatting and socialising with my fellow humans.
But please don’t find it weird if I just need a little time to myself every now and then too.
7. I’m not a huge fan of speaking on the phone.
I’m quite happy to briefly arrange or confirm things – that’s what I thought the phone was for.
But I’ve just never enjoyed prolonged catch-ups on the phone with anyone who isn’t a member of my family.
Text me, please.
8. I wouldn’t mind knowing what’s going to happen slightly ahead of time
I don’t need a full itinerary, but it’d be nice to know where we’re going and what we’re doing ahead of time so it isn’t a surprise.
Is that so unreasonable?
9. I get tired of socialising after a little while
Being around people is pretty draining, as much as I love it.
I’m not bored of you, I just need to recharge.
10. I’ve come to love being an introvert
I lived most of my teenage life wishing I was more extroverted, but in my mid-twenties, I bloody love being an introvert.
Yes, people sometimes label you as anti-social, but there’s sometimes no better company than your own.